You remember you have a girl (or guy) you like,

1. you see her, you see all of her…

2 you visit his house when it is a lil dark out..

3. chilling in the living room, watch a movie…nice time…

4. Kiss a lil…eh… up to the bedroom…

5. Sit on the bed…kiss a lil more…

6. ah well might as well…whew that was great (or that sucked lol)

Well I can remember when I first began to give up sex or think about giving up sex, I would try to give up sex at eh step 6. We both there and I am like, I can’t do it…lol, I got some looks, word and probably some things said about me behind my back.

Well time passes and I stumble upon a book, “Every Young Man’s Battle” (there is a female version “Every Young Woman’s Battle). A friend gave it to me, I didn’t read it, I knew what it was about….giving up sex and how to live sexually that way we were created to live. Well, after the last time of slipping, falling, dancing, stumbling, tripping, falling into step 6 and pulling back, I said, ok I got to get this thing off of me.

Amongst other things, I learned that sex starts at truly step 1 (for men). We visually see that big ow booty (or replace with female body part) and we can already have sex with her before we even know her name.

I think the most impactful thing I learned from the book is the ability to not look at a woman like a piece of meat or lust after them. Now women, definitely don’t make it easy, but hey, it can be done. I can remember the first day, it must had been like 24 or 30 some girls, that I had to stop myself and I realized then how much I objectified women as breasts, booty, legs, hair, elbows, etc.

But overtime, it has become easier and easier to not look at women in such an objectify-able way. The positive? Man, you respect yourself more. You carry yourself with a higher level of respect because you know you are one of the few men that truly are respecting women. Also the women feel better, one lady just told me, she always knew when she walked by that men were looking at her body and she appreciates when men don’t. I like that.

Now, of course I have slipped up…of course…shoot today this woman had this pencil skirt with some like 2 inches heels…shoooooooooooooooot… i love pencil skirts and heels. So, I had to like physically turn my body so I didn’t get that image in my head and afterward I was proud of myself.

So just thoughts…

C.

PS. For the wife out there, I know your out there, your boy loves them pencil skirts and like 1.5/2 inch heels and a nice blouse in the summer, man..shoot. get that click/clack of them heels, that lil swayyy! lol dont fool with me!!! lol i am just being silly… but dead serious!….lol…