A guy once told me that he never slept with someone that he couldn’t see himself with forever. The statement was somewhat disturbing and left me very perplexed towards the end of the conversation. However, I was young-minded an unaware of what he was really saying. We sometimes “hear what we want to hear” and form our perceptions around our own thoughts and not those of that individual. Furthermore, I think that MORE people should really analyze the validity in this statement because we all know the statistics surrounding pregnancy and divorce.

Since I have not found ANY man who I can whole heartily say I want this person to be the father of my children” I choose to wait. Those words hold extreme power for the father of my child and I will be connected all the days of my child’s life. That is a deep statement!

Taking a further step out and speaking from a personal perspective I can say that while hanging out with my girlfriends during those odd pregnancy scary moments we have all said “ Girl, I can’t have his baby” or “Oh this can’t be happening to me” etc. Not just speaking from a female perspective I have had my male friends call me with that same disparity in their voices. These are the moments when this blog gains it validity. We should not MAKE STATEMENTS like this because we shouldn’t be sleeping with people who we can’t imagine a family with. When we do this we voluntarily opt to possibly put our lives in danger with the scar of STDS, or our careers and education on hold with a possible pregnancy for a mere five minutes of fun. Is that really logical? It’s a real statement but what life isn’t fictitious!

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WOW! First and foremost, thank you Cal for creating such an intellectual forum for which people can exchange thoughts and ideas. Kudus!
Next—I AGREE, that unless you can stomach the idea of having to deal with a man/woman for the next 18+ years—then sex shouldn’t be apart of your interaction with them. I as well, have witnessed too many friends, associates go through the agonizing, “Why me spills” and “This just isn’t the right time/person” And though I steer clear from judgment, it does make me question the maturity of these folks. We are living in a day and age—that if you don’t WANT to contract a STD or become pregnant—you don’t have to. AIDS is so real as well as that little person growing inside of you or made from your seeds. It is dier for our people to start making smarter, well thought through choices as it relates to pro-creation. I had a guy tell me, he was ready for a kid. I told him,”Well, are you ready to have a wife?” And he became offended. He could not fasom the correlation between having a child with someone and marrying that same person. This is ridicolous and sad at best. He really thinks it’s okay, in 2007 to CONDONE having baby mama’s and being a baby daddy. True, some relationships fizzle out and you may ultimately be forced to be a single parent, but to CONSCIOUSLY perpetuate this vicious cycle of broken-families is selfish, it’s ignorant and it has to stop. After the orgasm has subsided, a cuter/flyer chic or dude comes into the picture or you just relunctantly get tired of your ’sex buddies’–you are left depeleted and apart of your self is forever lost in the lust of your flesh.