Tiger’s Infidelity Connected to My Celibacy

Right now Tiger Woods and his private matters have become quite public. This morning as I was watching ESPN they had more coverage on it and I began to think, what can I learn from this situation. One thing came to mind…

The importance of self control.

Now, I was in no way shape form or fashion on the same level of Tiger Woods but I did have an interesting college experience :joining a fraternity freshman year, going on to be Student Body President, starting a company on campus. Looking back, at the time, I could barely fit my head in the same room as other people. I felt like I could pretty much do what I wanted and how I wanted to do it.

So taking that feeling and multiplying by $1 Billion, I had a glimpse to how Tiger could have felt while sitting on top of the world. Now, during part of that time, I didn’t have a girlfriend and like I said, I felt like I could do anything that I wanted. After college, I went through a period of isolation where I dealt with alot of my weaknesses and areas that I had to improve in. Coming out of that, I had a closer relationship with God and a determination to be celibate until marriage.

Now, celibacy definitely started as a major challenge and I had  some interesting experiences as I became more comfortable with it. But now since starting down that road 3 years ago, I can see some of the most important lessons that I have learned. If I am to be as successful as I desire to be, I must learn how to control myself when no one else is going to hold me accountable. It is the battle within that is rarely fought while we dress up our exterior.

Now, I do not know if Tiger practiced celibacy or abstinence before marriage but I do know that for myself, that since going down this road, I am a stronger man and I no longer fall for the same temptation. If I continue on the path that I have set out to be on, hopefully  I would be protected from any of these types of Tiger Wood’s press releases.

So, I just ask that all of us that have aspirations to be great that we tackle our inner challenges. If not, when put under a international microscope, everything will be revealed. Sex can be a monster… Celibacy can help control it.

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My prayer:

My prayers are with Tiger, his wife,and his children during this very sensitive time and I pray that the strength of God and correction of God will rest in Tiger and he will grow to become the internal man that God created him to be, and not just the professional juggernaut he has become. I pray for his wife that she is comforted with the love of God and that she knows that even in this time of betrayal there is one who never betrays and is always with her, Jesus. For his children, I pray that they are protected from unnecessary conversations and exposure, and that through this experience they gain a closer relationship with Christ, as he is the only perfect man to ever live on the earth, and that they will increase in compassion and love for both of their parents. Amen.

Calvin: Because of You – My Girl Won’t Have Sex With Me

So, here I was, about a year or two ago now, stranded.

I was locked out of my office, which meant I was also locked out of my house, which meant I was also locked out of my car. But thankfully I had a cell phone.

So, I called a buddy of mine and asked if I could sleep on his couch until morning when I could get in my office and get my keys. He came, picked me up and we arrived at his place. So, we are on the couch watching the NBA and his other friend walks in who I also know and would consider a friend of mine.

So, we are all sitting there on the couch, when he says, “Calvin, because of you, my girlfriend won’t have sex with me anymore.” So, I sit there for a second, because I am not quite sure how did he mean that.

“Is he mad because unknowingly I changed his woman’s mind to sex and respect?”

“Is he about to express his feelings in unfriendly ways (it can be tough to take sex from a man that isn’t ready)?”

“Um… how did that happen?”

So, I look at him and ask, “How did I do that?”

He responds, “She reads your notes and one night in bed, she just said, “After reading Calvin’s notes, let’s not have sex anymore and (a), (b), (c) and (d). I am shocked! Part of me is happy because man, I am making an impact but the other part is still not sure about how this young sir is about to respond to me.

But he looks at me and smiles and says, “It is all good, I appreciate your notes also. They are good to read.” Whew!!! I was a very happy camper and the conversation went back to sports and life. The next day, I got back into my office and continued on with my life.

But, I am writing this note because you never know who is watching and who you can influence. You can change the world without much effort and without even trying. Make an impact in someone’s life today.