Calvin: Because of You – My Girl Won’t Have Sex With Me

Posted: May 19th, 2009 | Author: | Filed under: Personal Development, Relationships | Tags: , , | 1 Comment »

So, here I was, about a year or two ago now, stranded.

I was locked out of my office, which meant I was also locked out of my house, which meant I was also locked out of my car. But thankfully I had a cell phone.

So, I called a buddy of mine and asked if I could sleep on his couch until morning when I could get in my office and get my keys. He came, picked me up and we arrived at his place. So, we are on the couch watching the NBA and his other friend walks in who I also know and would consider a friend of mine.

So, we are all sitting there on the couch, when he says, “Calvin, because of you, my girlfriend won’t have sex with me anymore.” So, I sit there for a second, because I am not quite sure how did he mean that.

“Is he mad because unknowingly I changed his woman’s mind to sex and respect?”

“Is he about to express his feelings in unfriendly ways (it can be tough to take sex from a man that isn’t ready)?”

“Um… how did that happen?”

So, I look at him and ask, “How did I do that?”

He responds, “She reads your notes and one night in bed, she just said, “After reading Calvin’s notes, let’s not have sex anymore and (a), (b), (c) and (d). I am shocked! Part of me is happy because man, I am making an impact but the other part is still not sure about how this young sir is about to respond to me.

But he looks at me and smiles and says, “It is all good, I appreciate your notes also. They are good to read.” Whew!!! :) I was a very happy camper and the conversation went back to sports and life. The next day, I got back into my office and continued on with my life.

But, I am writing this note because you never know who is watching and who you can influence. You can change the world without much effort and without even trying. Make an impact in someone’s life today.

Conversation with a Young Lady

Posted: April 20th, 2009 | Author: | Filed under: Faith, Personal Development | Tags: , , , , | No Comments »
So I had this conversation with this young lady about men/women, men and women’s place in God and what we are to be and not be. Just felt like sharing…

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Jackie Somebody
Nothing much, how are you

Calvin Williams
I am very well. How was your weekend?

Jackie Somebody
Very entertaining!!

Calvin Williams
And why is that

Jackie Somebody
I went to a [private events]

Calvin Williams
Ah I c

Jackie Somebody
How bout you? Are you always so serious?

Calvin Williams
Went to Memphis. Why u say so serious? Had a great time at a friends wedding. Had an interesting dream a few nights and going to go to my Pastor to get it interpreted

Jackie Somebody
Oh really! Are you an inspiring or called minister?

Calvin Williams
Nope, I am a king

Jackie Somebody
You’re a King

Calvin Williams
Yep

Jackie Somebody
What do you mean by that, please elaborate

Calvin Williams
Ok this isn’t about religion or church this is about the kingdom of God. People haven’t known how the priest and kings work together. We are all called to be a minister on some level to their area of influence

Jackie Somebody
Continue

Calvin Williams
but God has a system set up with Kings (people in the world that stand on Godly principals and are blessed win in the world and bring it back into the kingdom of God – this is called wealth transfer) and the Priest (the ones who get the vision from God of what God wants to have done in the earth) and the system that is set up to fund the vision is the tithing system and both are important and anointed by God to do great things but because religion has only taught on priests people think that is the only way for people to do great work for God.
Make sense? But you could be God’s football player, office manager, janitor, doesn’t matter

Jackie Somebody
In a way, let me reread and really try and understand what you are saying, give me a minute

Calvin Williams
Whatever your area of influence is, you are to rule as a King in that area

Jackie Somebody
Ok

Calvin Williams
No doubt, I am cleaning up let me know when u ready

Jackie Somebody
I get it, so in your area of influence, you rule, making you a King. Correct!!

Calvin Williams
Bingo and how do you find out your area of influence?

Jackie Somebody
Lol

Calvin Williams
Whatever comes natural to you that is why when you work a job that isn’t in your area that comes natural to you (your gift) you feel unfulfilled. God never created you to do something you were created to do but when u do what you were created to do you would do it for free. That is probably the clearest example of the two kingdoms that we live in now (the kingdom of God and the kingdom of the Devil)

Jackie Somebody
WOW, that’s deep

Calvin Williams
In God’s Kingdom we do what we were created to do, we are happy at it and we blessed beyond measure. In the devil’s kingdom we do whatever we can do to get money, b/c we need money to live

Jackie Somebody
Absolutely. Wow!! You’re messing me up right now!!

Calvin Williams
I am not messing you up, watch your mouth. I am cleaning up the old system and I am right now exposing u to the kingdom of God and you love it

Jackie Somebody
Right right, got that right

Calvin Williams
Do you know why I said that? (Watch your mouth)

Jackie Somebody
Yes, the power of the tongue

Calvin Williams
Why

Jackie Somebody
Because your words create your future

Calvin Williams
Why

Jackie Somebody
What you say with your mouth will happen

Calvin Williams
Why, what power or authority y do have to make things happen with your words?

Jackie Somebody
Because that is how god created this world and us, through words

Calvin Williams
And?

Jackie Somebody
And because we have dominion over the kingdom, our words formulate our destiny, idk

Calvin Williams
No you right, which is why we can never say what we don’t want to come to pass. You are never messed up again in your life.

Jackie Somebody
Got that right, I love you man

Calvin Williams
Didn’t mean for the conversation to go here but hey, glad you enjoy it.
You are a queen. Think about it. You are a queen. And everything the queen says is done

Jackie Somebody
Thank you

Calvin Williams
Look back at history, queens speak things happen

Jackie Somebody
I soo needed this

Calvin Williams
So as a queen, how can u declare to your kingdom, that you are messed up? It conflicts with your true nature and then confusion occurs, in your kingdom

Queens just don’t say things, they command and you command under the authority of your king. And when u are under the authority of the king, then what u say comes to pass

Jackie Somebody
Wow!! Teach brother!!!

Calvin Williams
lol not trying to preach/teach but you are a queen

Jackie Somebody
You are so right, and i know that… I’ve been doing a lot of things lately that I would normally never do

Calvin Williams
No prob. Don’t even sweat it. Once u repent, God doesn’t care. And you are back under authority. You trying to repent now, I’ll pray with u if u want

Jackie Somebody
But what if i do it again

Calvin Williams
Then repent again

Jackie Somebody
I think I’m too far in

Calvin Williams
Not for Jesus. Peep this [Personal Testimony Story]

Jackie Somebody
[Personal Response]

Calvin Williams
But b/c I kept repenting. Now i don’t have [that problem] and i am working on now just removing [another problem]. But do you know what happens when you repent?

Jackie Somebody
You’re forgiven

Calvin Williams
And?

Jackie Somebody
And it’s forgotten

Calvin Williams
And?

Jackie Somebody
What?

Calvin Williams
What happens to you directly when you repent?

Jackie Somebody
I don’t know tell me

Calvin Williams
Sidebar – do you know why i do that?

Jackie Somebody
To see how much i know

Calvin Williams
Nope

Jackie Somebody
Why

Calvin Williams
B/c in the Kingdom God will never force anything on you but when you come to the point of humility of asking for help, you get help. Jackie, we transferring from the world to the kingdom of God

So we have to operate differently. God wants us to come to him with questions and show how much we need him; this isn’t about me showing how much i know. But just using this as an example of how we treat our King b/c remember, we are his queen/king, and we need to do what He wants and the only way to do that is to humble ourselves and ask for help or clarity

Jackie Somebody
I know and i was for 5 years, but i let myself be drawn back in, and it hurts because i know i don’t belong

Calvin Williams
You belong. Let’s go back to repenting. Do you believe you have a body/spirit/mind?

Jackie Somebody
Yes

Calvin Williams
Ok (just making sure we have the same foundation). So you think a thought, do that thought in our bodies and we sin

Jackie Somebody
Ok

Calvin Williams
Now we repent. We decide in our mind that we need to repent and change our ways

Jackie Somebody
Right

Calvin Williams
In the spirit, our spirits are renewed, we are filled up with the spirit of God, the old man is being removed and you are filled up with the spirit of God. Then we think different, and we act different

Let’s say we do this today

Jackie Somebody
Ok

Calvin Williams
And you sin tomorrow morning (your mind had a thought that wasn’t of God, your body did it and you sinned and then you disconnected yourself from God)

Jackie Somebody
Right.

Calvin Williams
But b/c you had this conversation, you repent quickly and you CUT OFF the sin nature and then again fill yourself back up in Jesus. B/c you cut off the nature the time will come with that desire or act is dead. B/c u keep on cutting it off

Make sense?

Jackie Somebody
Oh ok. Makes a lot of sense

Calvin Williams
Which is why it is ok to repent again b/c what you are doing is you are cutting off the sin nature over and over until there is none left and there is nothing left but the Spirit of God. And then you are a changed person

Jackie Somebody
Wow that helps a lot… you don’t know what this means to me… GOD is sooooo Good!!!!

Calvin Williams
Constantly repenting is the best way to stay connected to God and to do what God called you to do. So have you ever prayed the prayer of salvation b4?

Jackie Somebody
How can I still b a positive influence to those woman and men who look up to me, when I have done some of the same things they continue to do on a regular basis

Calvin Williams
Simple, do you see how i talked to you about all of this? But then i was real with you and i said that i still have challenges myself? I never made myself look like i was 100% perfect. I said this is the road i am on and i know a little so come on the road with me. But i am not trying to be your priest. I am a your friend as a King. But we both need to go a priest that can help us

Jackie Somebody
Yes I’ve said the salvation prayer before… you don’t know. I was deep in the word, until about 7mths ago!!!

Calvin Williams
So you share your story, be your role model, be real with them and transparent (don’t need to tell your biz but just keep it real) and then you bring them to where you are going. That is fine, God doesn’t care how long. Once you repents and come back you are good

Jackie Somebody
What would I do without his mercy?
Wow
This was invigorating

Calvin Williams
But, do you think u need this more often?

Jackie Somebody
I know I need this more often

Calvin Williams
You in GSO right? Roll to service with me. B/c as the king that you are (queen) we need this to make it

Jackie Somebody
I’m in High Point…What church do you attend

Calvin Williams
Doesn’t matter that is close enough?

Building Lives Christian Center, I knew a man that drove 1 hour each way to get word.

Jackie Somebody
Lol
Just asking

Calvin Williams
B/c if u feel like this now, i am just a King.Imagine how u feel when it comes right from the priest

Jackie Somebody
I know right!!!When is your next service?

Calvin Williams
Tuesday @ 7pm and Sunday @ 10am. Do you need directions?

Jackie Somebody
Ok
Yes please

Calvin Williams
7695 HWY 29 North
Brown Summit, NC 27214

Directions from Greensboro
Take 29 North towards Reidsville. After passing the Benaja Road Exit and going under a bridge the next available left you will make a u-turn to get on the other side of the highway. You will turn right at the next driveway. The church is at the top of the hill on the right.

Calvin Williams
Remember, Your King is looking for you. You can’t say crazy things b/c then your King will be like, man she isn’t ready. But you are a King’s crown; Worth more than any amount of money or object and when others see you they see the glory of your King.

Sidebar – can i copy the repentance conversation and change your name and make that into a note?

Jackie Somebody
Yeah that’s fine

Calvin Williams
Thx, but you’re a queen lady if you don’t remember anything else, you are a queen in the Kingdom of God

Jackie Somebody
I believe it, thanx!!!