Premature:

–adjective
1.     occurring, coming, or done too soon: a premature announcement.
2.     Mature or ripe before the proper time.

Ejaculation:

–noun
1.     An abrupt, exclamatory utterance.

Syndrome:

-noun

1. A predictable, characteristic pattern of behavior, action, etc., that tends to occur under certain circumstances: the retirement syndrome of endless golf and bridge games; the feast-or-famine syndrome of big business.

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As I was moving about my day, a thought came to mind, when people were pushing me to write a book. They said, “Calvin, I love your notes and your blogs, you have to write a book,” or “You already have so much, you could just bundle this up and sell this! I would pay $14 for what you have now!”

I became excited. Excited about the possibility to impact so many lives, to build up people and to $$$ Put a little money in my pocket. But, as I tried to put things together I realized that it just wasn’t going well. I had road block in front of road block, the plans that I had to review content and put together a book could never come together. I had put forth all of this energy and pssst went no where.

Often in this American culture of overnight success, we can create in us premature ejaculation syndrome. Where we see other people getting what we desire, at a young age or quickly and we want the same thing. Then we have a desire, gift or ability and we put forth all of our energy and then pssst nothing happens. We look at ourselves in disgust, say maybe it wasn’t meant to be or I just failed.

When it is the complete opposite, you just rushed too quickly.

There is a weight to success.

You must be able to bear that weight or it can kill you.

That is beauty of the progress of success (which I will write about later). The process of success builds the foundation that can bear the weight of success. The greater the success, the greater the foundation required. If you want just a little bit of success, then you can have a few cracks in your foundation. However, if you want success that will impact the world and change people’s lives for generations to come, that type of success requires a deep and strong foundation.

So, take the time to develop your foundation. Invest in the process of success. Enjoy the roadblocks and opportunities where you succeed and where you fail. Because in all of that, a man/woman is built that can withstand the pressures and weight of the success that you are destined to achieve.

C.

However, created equal does not equate to living equal.

It is your duty and your job on earth to ensure that you live a remarkable life. You have been created with everything that you need to overcome but until you put them into play you will never know what you are truly capable of. Some call it living on the edge, until you get out of the boat and walk on water, you will never know how far you can go.

Life is designed to push back against you achieving your destiny. It is a bottom line fact, systems, rules, regulations, and people are set up as road blocks to stop you from achieving your personal destiny. You have to come to the emotional point, I will not give up, I will not give up and I can do this.

Your mother can not do it for you, your father can not do it for you, and your friends can not do it for you. The only way that you can reach and manifest your destiny is when the world pushes you up against a corner, you demand on yourself to push back. It is a learned skill, one that when master will ensure that you never lose again in your life.

Make today your day. Make today be the day that you stop allowing life to pass you by. Get angry, get focused, and get your destiny.

No one is holding up your stuff. The only reason why you are in the life that you are living now is because you accept it. How do I know that? Because the only reason why I am in the life that I am in now, is because I accepted it. Well, here is a public notice of a private declaration, I reject the areas and things in my life that are not apart of my destiny and I replace them with my aspects and features of my destiny that were promised to me as a human created on this earth.

Today is the day. Now is the time. My world is rearranged according to my words and my beliefs. If you don’t believe me, just keep living, you will see.

First, let’s be real. In the natural, I am not balling out of control, I am chipping away at my debt (on my way to being debt free), I have to take my car to shop, trust, I have real life problems and challenges. However, amiss all those situations, I live a life so amazing that people are envious. Why?

Because the part of my life that is amazing is based on an intrinsic value that flows from the inside out. Without that inner spirit, we can have the same problems and challenges and you would be ready to jump off a click and feel like garbage. I have been working on developing my inner man for years and now it has grown to a point to where, I can recognize real situations (i.e. having a bill that you can’t pay or a family member doing something crazy), decide my action, deal with the situation but maintain a level of joy because my inner man feeds my emotional state rather than being fed by my outward situations.

It is a learned ability that comes with growth and inner maturity, but if I can have it, so can you! Here are a few steps to develop your inner man/woman:

1. Realize that you are able to read this note, really think about that, this very second someone in the world just died and it wasn’t you.

2. Realize that no matter how messed up your house, car, job maybe – you have one. That appreciation for the smallest of things is the next step in developing your inner person.

3. Look back on all other crazy, ridiculous challenges that you have made it through and realize this too shall pass.

4. Surround yourself with people with a strong inner man/woman, you can tell them because they do not talk about people, they are not negative, they are comfortable with who they are and where they are but moving forward to future goals.

5. Follow me on http://twitter.com/calvinwilliams lol! Be blessed.

C.

PS. For those who believe in Christ, finding an amazing bible teaching, leader developing, kingdom minded, accountability enforcing, standard having church will not only help but accelerate your inner man/woman.

However, as I have kept on living, I have become better at finding the blessing.

When I say better, I mean to be able to be in a crappy, loathful, distasteful situation and see the blessing. When we are able to spend our time in a situation but see the blessing then that is how we become able to overcome the situation. There is a positive aspect of every situation that we go through.

The process to finding that blessing is a direct one that we must take or else we find ourselves in the situation for much longer than we ever desired.

Steps:
1. Accepting the Reality of Where We Are

This can be the hardest step but it is the most real step. If you are in debt over your eyes, you have to realize it, write down the number figure out what the debt is. If you are in a relationship that is hurting you, you have to realize it, accept the fact of where you are. If you are failing a class, you have to just look at your tests and accept the reality of your current situation.

This is creating the bottom of the whole. Someone once told me, the way to get out of a hole is to stop digging. To stop digging we must figure out where we are.

2. Determine the Path Out

Many people try to figure out how to get out before you know where you are and thus feel like there is no way out. But when you already have found the bottom of the whole, you can figure out exactly how to get out.

Truly, if we are too be honest with ourselves, we know how to get out. The challenge is do we decide to do what we have to do so we can get out of the storm.

If you truly dont know where to go, ask someone with wisdom (not a friend that is in the same situation you are in, someone with true wisdom that can help

3. Make the Decision – It is only hard in thought.

When we know what we are to do but we have such a challenge doing it, it is not because the actual decision is hard it is because we have a perception (a mental expectation) that it will be challenging and hard but when we have to do what we have to do, we have to do it. You and I both know that when we start going down the road, it will open up and flow out very easily.

Dang! Someone called and broke my concentration…. If it comes back to me, I will finish, if not I hope this impacts someone….

Dang Nabit! wasn’t that old school…

C.