Shop Your Way to Singlehood

I know women love to shop, it is a great thing… but it must be in moderation.
I was in conversation with this one young lady and she was telling me about how much she loved to shop, how many times she would go to the mall and all of that. I was like cool, i mean I want you to be fly… truly I do.. but then it happened…

I begin to think a little long term…

Hmm, if I get with this girl and she gets the ring, the house, the life and she doesn’t change her ways somewhere along the road… she might shop all our money away! This may sound a little extreme but people don’t change just because they are in a relationship or married…

Needless to say, (that wasn’t the deciding factor) but I don’t talk to that young lady any more…

YOU AREN’T SPENDING MY DUCKETS!

Just playing… but then not completely…

just a thought.

C.

Why I am Loving Being Single!!!

I have been catching (either directly or by proxy) a little bit of heat for a status like “Calvin is loving being single!” So, I would just like to set the record straight.
We live in a culture where every one goes around saying, “it is ok to be who you are, where you are, accept where you are, enjoy life how it is now, don’t focus on future joys, enjoy the joys you have now.”

But the second one begins to do that, especially in an arena like relationships (where so many people desire to have a mate more than they desire to love themselves) it is like a shock or shot heard round the world.

People! Come On! If I desire to be married (which I do), but I am not married (which I am not), then why shouldn’t I love where I am currently in life! Why should I store up my future joy, when I have joy now!

A statement like that has nothing to do with past, present, or future relationships, it has to do with the fact that I as a human being am happy and content enough with myself that I can love being single.

What I ask, is stop looking at situations from your hurt, broken, busted point of view and begin to see how beautiful your current situation is. Being single is a lovely thing. Where else can I travel at the drop of a dime, come home and sleep all day, not be accountable to someone else, have my house exactly the way I want it, play music as loud as I want, dream big dreams and work as hard as I want to achieve them without someone asking me to come to bed. Being single is the time in your life to create the life you want for when you are married.

I am loving the process!

So, if you do not love being single and are (insert word – other than ‘hating’) on the fact that I am loving my process to become a wonderful husband and father, I don’t want to hear it and don’t tell anyone that is going to bring it back to me. I am too busy taking over the world to be bothered with foolish conversation that doesn’t yield profit.

Ok, now back to taking over the world…

The Battle Within…

Two Questions

Does a liar who tells you that 2 + 2 = 4 make the fact that 2 + 2 does equal 4 false?

or

Does an addict telling you that drugs kill make the fact that drugs kill false?

To a degree, it doesn’t matter the source, truth is truth. It doesn’t matter if the truth was delivered by God or by a rock. The truth is the truth. Well if you agree with that, why do we reject or judge truth dependent on the source that delivers it.

We all have battles within that can (if we allow them) lead us to do or say things that other times we wouldn’t want to do. But, why do we as humans throw out the baby with the bath water. I, once, heard a saying, “eat the meat, throw the bone.”

If we would all be a little more compassionate about those around us and the challenges that they face, we could produce an environment that would be more forgiving for the mistakes that people make. 99.9% of the time, we all know when we are doing something that we shouldn’t’ be doing. We don’t feel right on the inside, our spirits don’t sit still. So, those on the outside that know of people’s challenges would be much better off, encouraging and building up individuals rather than bringing them down to where you (the lowly person) maybe.

In addition, just because someone makes a mistakes doesn’t’ discredit the truth they may have said before, during or after. We are all human, with challenges that we have to overcome.

Let’s lend a hand, instead of delivering a slap.
Let’s people our fellow men (and women), instead of taking the easy way out and reducing them to a lower level…

C.

PS. Forgive me as I get back into the swing of writing, greatness is on the way!!!

Best Asset Is Not Your Butt

As I browse around on facebook, I just have to say from a heterosexual male that loves every aspect of a woman, your best asset is not your butt, your legs, your breasts or any other physical component that you have been blessed with.
What is truly your greatest worth is the spirit, emotion, love within you. Now, I love a great figure as much as the best man. But, I had to take a moment and just reaffirm that although I love the figure, I long to see the true beauty of a woman and not just the glitz and glamour of the physical body.

What am I really getting at?

Your profile picture is what you choose to be your 1st impression and representation of yourself for many people. So, why show off your butt (or insert breasts, etc. here) before you show off anything else? Oh, I know you are just joking and it is comedy… This may be true to a degree but you also know the attention that this particular body part gets you and because you enjoy the attention, we continue to see that body part.

Some may say, “Calvin, I know you are attracted physically first.”

I would respond, this is true… the physical will cause an ATTRACTION but true beauty will keep my ATTENTION.

Women, please be more than just attractive, keep a man’s attention…

Be blessed…

C.

THE WATER IS FLOWING, MAN IT FEEL SO GOOD TO BE FREE.

Self Worth: Priceless

Short One:

Never allow anyone to lower, devalue, or reduce you to anything like than the awesome and amazing person that you are.

If they were as great as they esteem themself to be, they wouldn’t talk about you. Great individuals do not talk down or bad about anyone else beacuse they know their short comings and are focused on improving who they are.

So recognize individuals that have areas that they need to come up in and never allow them to lower your value.

Yes, allow!

If you do not allow someone to make you uncomfortable, embrasseed, or less than great.

Calvin: Because of You – My Girl Won’t Have Sex With Me

So, here I was, about a year or two ago now, stranded.

I was locked out of my office, which meant I was also locked out of my house, which meant I was also locked out of my car. But thankfully I had a cell phone.

So, I called a buddy of mine and asked if I could sleep on his couch until morning when I could get in my office and get my keys. He came, picked me up and we arrived at his place. So, we are on the couch watching the NBA and his other friend walks in who I also know and would consider a friend of mine.

So, we are all sitting there on the couch, when he says, “Calvin, because of you, my girlfriend won’t have sex with me anymore.” So, I sit there for a second, because I am not quite sure how did he mean that.

“Is he mad because unknowingly I changed his woman’s mind to sex and respect?”

“Is he about to express his feelings in unfriendly ways (it can be tough to take sex from a man that isn’t ready)?”

“Um… how did that happen?”

So, I look at him and ask, “How did I do that?”

He responds, “She reads your notes and one night in bed, she just said, “After reading Calvin’s notes, let’s not have sex anymore and (a), (b), (c) and (d). I am shocked! Part of me is happy because man, I am making an impact but the other part is still not sure about how this young sir is about to respond to me.

But he looks at me and smiles and says, “It is all good, I appreciate your notes also. They are good to read.” Whew!!! I was a very happy camper and the conversation went back to sports and life. The next day, I got back into my office and continued on with my life.

But, I am writing this note because you never know who is watching and who you can influence. You can change the world without much effort and without even trying. Make an impact in someone’s life today.