Shop Your Way to Singlehood

I know women love to shop, it is a great thing… but it must be in moderation.
I was in conversation with this one young lady and she was telling me about how much she loved to shop, how many times she would go to the mall and all of that. I was like cool, i mean I want you to be fly… truly I do.. but then it happened…

I begin to think a little long term…

Hmm, if I get with this girl and she gets the ring, the house, the life and she doesn’t change her ways somewhere along the road… she might shop all our money away! This may sound a little extreme but people don’t change just because they are in a relationship or married…

Needless to say, (that wasn’t the deciding factor) but I don’t talk to that young lady any more…

YOU AREN’T SPENDING MY DUCKETS!

Just playing… but then not completely…

just a thought.

C.

Why I am Loving Being Single!!!

I have been catching (either directly or by proxy) a little bit of heat for a status like “Calvin is loving being single!” So, I would just like to set the record straight.
We live in a culture where every one goes around saying, “it is ok to be who you are, where you are, accept where you are, enjoy life how it is now, don’t focus on future joys, enjoy the joys you have now.”

But the second one begins to do that, especially in an arena like relationships (where so many people desire to have a mate more than they desire to love themselves) it is like a shock or shot heard round the world.

People! Come On! If I desire to be married (which I do), but I am not married (which I am not), then why shouldn’t I love where I am currently in life! Why should I store up my future joy, when I have joy now!

A statement like that has nothing to do with past, present, or future relationships, it has to do with the fact that I as a human being am happy and content enough with myself that I can love being single.

What I ask, is stop looking at situations from your hurt, broken, busted point of view and begin to see how beautiful your current situation is. Being single is a lovely thing. Where else can I travel at the drop of a dime, come home and sleep all day, not be accountable to someone else, have my house exactly the way I want it, play music as loud as I want, dream big dreams and work as hard as I want to achieve them without someone asking me to come to bed. Being single is the time in your life to create the life you want for when you are married.

I am loving the process!

So, if you do not love being single and are (insert word – other than ‘hating’) on the fact that I am loving my process to become a wonderful husband and father, I don’t want to hear it and don’t tell anyone that is going to bring it back to me. I am too busy taking over the world to be bothered with foolish conversation that doesn’t yield profit.

Ok, now back to taking over the world…

Smiles On the Outside, Failing on the Inside

Have you ever had that feeling on the inside that you are a failure? It is a feeling of like a pit in the small of your soul and it sucks the life out of you. It is a feeling where you know that when you walk out your house, car, job that no one else knows but you walk around carrying this feeling of being a failure with you everyday.
Some call it a secret sin, some call it an area where you need improvement but it doesn’t matter, you can call it what you want…

You wished it would change and be over so you could be a better person and live your life. That joy and happiness that every sees you put on, you could just be. Your burden really could be light.

But it feels like you won’t ever be able to get this thing off of you. Either it was something that was passed on or just something you have been doing for a long time that you can’t seem to stop doing it.

There is hope because you can, I can, and we can.

Every day that we wake up and try again to overcome that situation, problem, feeling or attitude is another day that we become closer. Sure it would be easier to just ask God to make a switch and then we make it. But then we would have no story to help those that come behind us. There is always someone worse off than you. Someone that is more tangled up in what you are working to get out.

Every time you try and you succeed even if just for a second, that is a chink of the armor of the one that is battling you and you are one step closer to deliverance. So, don’t give up. Put a smile on your face, if the thing, attitude, habit, whatever was that bad, you would be dead. But you are not.

You are a live… I am a live… We are alive…

The day has only yet begun, your life still has much ahead of you. Our past was 1 second ago and our present will determine our future. Lets bind up our feet, get our head in the right direction, pat ourselves on the back for although we had that habit, we said that thing, we did that thing, that thing does not define us.

You, I, We are a people of power and a people of overcomes. That mentality will not stop us from achieving what we were created to do. We are world overcomes and the victory that overcomes the world is our faith. We must have faith that all things are possible if we only believe. So what we didn’t have faith the last time we were in that situation, the conversation, that location and we didn’t perform the way we wanted to.

We are still alive to believe another day. So, if you join me, lets press on and press through. Lets enter all that God created for us because why would He create us if not so we can be prosperous and successful.

Good morning America, our future is knocking, lets get dressed, put on our overcomer attitude and lets go get the world… it is ours for the taking…